Your Mental Health, Your Responsibility!

Many times, people seem to assume its the responsibility of other people to make them feel good about themselves, be happy, loved, appreciated and valued. Unfortunately, that responsibility is too heavy for any human being to bear. No human being or government has the capacity to fulfil that responsibility. If it is not coming from you, from your inside, it is as good as water off a duck’s back. No matter how good the other person’s intentions are, they may forget to turn up for you because of personal needs and demand.

A doctor might prescribe drugs to help deal with an underlying ailment but if the patient does not take the prescription as advised, then its of no use.

A psychologist might proffer counsel and therapy to help manage or facilitate change but if the client is not willing to follow what is advised then the recommendation is of no benefit.

In the debate about the usefulness of wearing face mask or not in public places to curb the spread of corona virus; with many people arguing/protesting for and against wearing them and governments putting legislation in place to enforce the use, one thing is certain, you have to take responsibility for your health. Since you can not ensure other people complying with rules, you have to ensure your safety by doing the needful…wear your mask and protect yourself! As the saying goes, “the change you desire starts with you!

I had an agreement with my son’s school bus escort to give me a buzz when she comes into my housing estate to prevent my son and I waiting too long in the cold for the bus while she picks up other children. It was an agreement I “assumed” was set in stone. There I was the next day relaxed on my couch waiting for a call that never came. When i felt the call was suspiciously late, my son and i walked to our usual spot only to see the tail end of the bus driving away. O.K to say I was upset is putting it mildly but I did not blame her! A lot might have transpired that morning to make her forget but I promised never to leave myself at the receiving end of what another person does or does not do at the cost of my peace. What I did next was to find a suitable solution for my son and I. Instead of standing in the cold while waiting we would wait in the comfort of my car till the bus gets to us. Problem solved and all existing relationships undamaged.

Your mental health is chiefly YOUR RESPONSIBILITY, Other people only provide supporting roles. TAKE CHARGE.